There is a lady at my work who everybody likes. I don’t have a whole lot to do with her, but I chat with her socially whenever we happen to cross paths in the kitchen. She is gentle and calm and positive, which are all super qualities to bring to a workplace. And not only that, but she is genuinely liked and respected.
Just last week, I happened to run into her on the street, as I was heading out to get my much-needed afternoon caffeine fix. We were both on our way to different places, but stopped to chat. And wow. She brought this energy with her that was truly beautiful and I couldn’t help but be affected by it. So calm and centred and present. So warm and caring and… well, just filled with light.
And this is a woman who, in the current government job cuts, has been demoted and had half her team, her car park and her salary cut. Oh, and her much-loved family dog died a few weeks ago. All of this, yet the woman is a beacon of calmness. It emanated from her. In our brief ten minute chat, in an entirely non-preachy way, she managed to calm me, encourage me and reassure me. And I didn’t even know I needed any of those things!
Our encounter also left me with the reaffirmed knowledge that we are responsible for our own energy. It is a choice. We can cultivate it so that people walk away from us feeling filled with light, or conversely, sucked in to the stress. And it made me wonder about how I sometimes fail dismally in this regard…
For way too long, I have struggled when coping with stress. I just get too caught up in it and end up feeling tired, sick and wrung out. And completely disappointed in myself. I end up feeling the stress hormones surging through my system and I become unable to stop my mind worrying over it like a dog with a super-tasty bone. Usually I end up eating or trying to find some other way to numb it down (which, surprisingly [!!] doesn’t work!).
At the moment, I work for someone who could politely be called a drama queen. And I find it so very difficult to not get sucked into her whirlpool of fluster and bluster, even though I can intellectually recognise that it is pointless and not serving me. I end up taking it on, and – worse – taking it home.
My Dad once sat me down and said that he loved me and thought I was amazing (I have an awesome Dad!) but that if I didn’t address how I react to stress, I would never grow into the person I could be. That I’m meant to be. I found that difficult to hear, but it was also arrow-to-the-heart true…
So I left my conversation with the Lady-of-Light, had my coffee, then came back to my desk and immediately did something I’ve been meaning to do forever: I booked an appointment with a lady to learn some new techniques for dealing with stress and managing your energy. She came highly recommended from a friend of a friend, and is half counselor, half hippy, half healer (yes, that is three halves!). Hopefully, just the right amount of woo-woo and practical.
Seeking help and answers from someone who knows more than me is an active step to move forward – I don’t want to just keep on keeping on. So, I will report back with what I learn and what I discover. It already feels good to tick something off my to-do list and to be actively making my health and wellness a priority. So stay tuned!!!
Do you feel like you deal with stress well?